How Are You, Really?

It’s hard to believe, but we’re already more than halfway through the year. Between the busyness of work, family life, and everything else we juggle, it's easy to lose track of time—and sometimes, of each other.
So here’s my friendly reminder to pause and check in.
Check in with yourself. How are you doing—really? Take a moment to notice your mental and emotional well-being, even if just for a minute today.
And just as importantly, check in with those around you: friends, family members, coworkers, neighbors—anyone who’s part of your life. Ask, “How are you?” and mean it. Go beyond the surface. Offer a listening ear, your physical presence, a short text, or even a handwritten card. You never know what someone might be carrying silently.
When we ask, “How are you?”, we’re opening a door to someone’s mental health. It’s not always easy to talk about, but even small gestures can remind others they’re not alone.
Here are a few other ways to gently open that door:
- “What have you been thinking about lately?”
- “Tell me about your life these days.”
- “I know you’ve been going through some stuff—I want you to know I’m here.”
And if someone does open up, follow up. Check in again next week. Remember what they shared. Let them know they matter.
Mental health isn’t just something we talk about in crisis. It’s a part of our everyday lives—and checking in with care and intention is one way we can all support each other, year-round.
Let’s not wait for a special occasion. Let’s make connection part of our routine.
Resources:
Resilience Skill Sheet: How are you?
Additional Resource: Check in: Ten Minutes/Ten Questions